Remembering and Honoring The Past

The Importance of Traditions and Reminiscing

The holiday season is approaching. Thanksgiving will be here in a couple of weeks, followed by Christmas. November and December are often a time of busyness. There is lots to be done in preparation for the “big days.” For older adults, some of those holiday activities are no longer possible due to mobility issues, health concerns, or even limited funds.

That does not mean they cannot participate. Family and friends can play a key role in helping their older loved ones feel part of the preparation and anticipation of holiday celebrations. For example:

• Ask for their input in meal options – they may have some favorites that remind them of years past.
• If they send cards, they can offer to help address them and get them mailed.
• If you bake cookies, invite them to be part of the fun.
• If they need to purchase gifts but cannot get out, suggest online shopping as a practical option.
• If you decorate your home, make them part of that experience.

Remember When?

Family gatherings are also a wonderful time to reminisce – it is something everyone enjoys. For the older members of your family, it can be therapeutic as well. Talking about past Christmases or other special family times helps to reconnect them with their roots – their grandparents, parents, siblings or even a spouse who is no longer with them. Memories are powerful and while they may bring some sadness of days gone by, they may also create laughter and bring on a sense of well-being, especially if family members are curious and ask questions. Getting older can sometimes make seniors feel invisible – it is crucial to let them know how valued they are.

Join in the fun!

The Twin Cities area has senior and assisted living communities who understand the importance of celebrating traditions, reminiscing and being part of the holiday festivities. Some may include:

• Inviting residents to help with decorating the community
• Holding Let Us Reminisce gatherings enabling people to talk about their family traditions, trade funny stories about when things went wrong (who does not have some of those), and learn how other cultures celebrate.
• Providing special holiday meals for those who are unable to attend, or do not have, family gatherings.
• Offering an evening of fine dining often followed by music/entertainment
• Playing seasonal music in public areas
• Assisting residents with setting up online video calls with loved ones.

They also remember those who may have experienced the loss of a spouse, friend or child by providing a space to share their memories, grieve and feel supported.

Joining in community-led activities and family gatherings can have a positive effect on the health of older adults by helping them feel heard, respected, and connected. Spending time giving thanks, listening, laughing, and reminiscing will make these celebrations beneficial to all who attend.